Why Online Dating is Not Perfect

I have been studying online dating for years and it would appear at first like it is a great idea. For guys you know or believe that the women are available. Most guys who see an attractive woman in public quickly finds out that she is married or already has a long term boyfriend. It is difficult enough for most guys to talk to attractive women and then when they try and find out almost all of them are already taken they may think online dating is the answer.

There are different problems for men and women with online dating. The main problem for women is that most (80+) of good looking guys online are married or already have one or more girlfriends and are just womanizers. By the way I have never heard the term manizer used before. I guess I just created a new word as manizer does not even show up as a word in any spell checking software. I always say to women if you think a guy is very attractive and successful, almost all other women do also and he is most likely married or dating other women already.

The problem for men with online dating is that there are reasons why attractive women are online looking for men. Think about it, if an attractive women is online that means that she has most likely already rejected all the men that have approached her in general public. So you see many women online that are 34 to 44 that have never been married. These are all bad news and stay away from them. They write stuff like this:
"I have been told, one too many times, that I apparently have the "intimidating factor". What can I say? *smiles* Even though I tower over everyone, it still doesn't stop me from wearing my high heels! And, at times, I must admit that I feel like I am living among the "little people," (no offense, people under 6') but when I was growing up, was I the only one drinking milk?

I'm content with my life, I'm happy, and I have fabulous friends who keep me busy - there's never a dull moment! I am really blessed to have all the things that I do. All I want now is to feel that spark of chemistry with that someone special that I've been waiting for 31 years, unfortunately no man so far is good enough for me."

I say, if no guy is good enough for you after searching for 31 years perhaps you should become a lesbian. lol

Guys have to filter out all the women online that are difficult, too picky, and that claim no guy they have dated is good enough for them. At first guys may think it is just them; however when they find out the women in question has rejected the last 47 guys she has dated as not good enough the truth becomes very clear. The best methods of filtering out 80+% of the women that are like this is to talk with them extensively on the phone before you even bother to meet them. I will give more details about how to do this later.

So if you are a man or a women when you think about the issues I mentioned above you will realize online dating is NO panacea.

Also men are subjected to different types of scams with online dating, e.g. on Yahoo personals there are many Russian and Nigeria Africa scams, where people put up pictures of beautiful women and then email guys, when the guy responds he gets shit like this:

The picture above is from a person who claims to be Jessica Jones and sent this scam email below. Yahoo is so incompetent they make it easy for these scammer criminals to abuse their online dating system.

How are you doing I am very much interested in getting to know more about you. I am really new to this online dating and I haven't met anyone yet through online dating personals but I am willing to get to know someone and get to understand his motives and intentions towards me. I believe once i am been sincere and honest about my kind of person and i am able to help you understand who I really am I think you will be more comfortable getting to know more about me.I am 27 years of age, born on March 17, 1980. I am an only child and have never been married. I have never had children but am willing to be a parent with someone who is ready for permanent commitment relationship. My dad is from Liberia (Half American/Half Liberian) and my mother was from Spain. My dad was a contractor and my mother was a teacher. My mom and dad met in London and that is where I was born. I grew up with both parents until I was seven. They had a misunderstanding so dad had to leave me and mom in London. I lived with mom in London but she was under a lot of stress so she chose to take me to the states to meet her Aunt Elizabeth. I was 8 years old. Mom had to explain everything that went wrong between her and my dad, she didn't even know where he had gone. My mom and I stayed with my great-aunt for two months but then my mother told me that she had to return to London. I missed my mom but she wrote me letters and she phoned me until I was eleven, then I did not hear from her again. I was worried and then shocked when my aunt had to tell me that my mother had committed suicide. The pain of losing my mom has been in me ever since, my aunt took me in as if I were her own daughter and it made me happy to know she loved me with all her heart. She was the only family I had but died of a heart attack when I was seventeen. Since then I have had to make a life of my own doing the things I know how to do best. I kept faith in myself and my belief in Christ. I am a devoted Christan and believe so much in Christ. God has really been my father and my mother and provided me with all the inner strength that I needed. I have a degree in Fashion designing but right now I am on a contract in West Africa, Nigeria precisely, working on a project in fashion design. I am pursuing other interests as well. I was sent here by a company in the states. Once I am through in Nigeria I will be heading up back to the states to sign off my contract then back to Agoura Hills, CA . I lived there but don't have many friends around that area because I am always out of the country for work. I have been to Spain and France but the traveling isn't any fun for me. I had no choices left other than to do what I needed to do. This is my seventh week in Nigeria and I have only a few more weeks left before I leave Nigeria then back to the states. Then I will be settling down and hope to meet my Mr. Right. I don't know who he is yet but I know I will meet him someday soon.I am even willing to relocate to wherever he might be in this world.My closest friends describe me as a person that is real and sincere. Someone that is not looking for anyones baggage or a person to fill a void till you find something better. A person that can appreciate the little things in life and very goal orientated and self dependent. Someone that is a very good friend at all times. My friends would tell you I have a favorite qoute and that is the grass may appear greener on the other side, but that does not mean it is easier to cut. More people in life should think about that. The thing that I appreciate most in a partner is there honesty and personality. It is not one or the other that can make a relationship it is the both of you together. Laughter is the best medicine and realizing that life is too short to be serious all the time. my main goals in life are to be the best that I can be at my job and take my career and run with it. I am looking for a friend that can help me financially, I need some help to make my dreams come true. The keys to a lasting relationship are communication, if you can not communicate with each other and be honest and open then what do you have?
To be supporting of each others goals and dreams. Time alone to enjoy the things each of you like. Friend ship is an important part of making it or breaking it I hope i haven't bored you too much with my long emails. I just want to be more detailed and letting you know everything about me.
Age is not a problem at all to me, I attached several pictures for you, and if you need more I will send as many as you like... lol.

I will be waiting to hear from you.

Jessica Elizabeth Jones

Barcelona Spain Culture and Lifestyle

The first thing any English speaking native should know and accept when they travel to Spain is:

1. "Right now" generally means about one hour.
2. "A few minutes" usually means two hours.

If you are from America, Canada, Australia, the United Kingdom this understanding will save you a lot of frustrations and you will enjoy your trip to Barcelona and the rest of Spain more than if you try to force a English speaking mentality on the relations you have with Spanish speaking people.

Please understand are in their country and you can learn a lot by studying the culture and lifestyle.

If you are fortunate enough to have the financial resources to stay in a luxury 5 star hotel like the Hotel Rey Juan Carlos there will of course be English speaking staff. people come from all over the world to visit Barcelona which is know world wide for all night dancing and partying. It is true and it is also very different from say Las Vegas, where you can also party all night long. The Rey Juan Carlos has some very good things and some really stupid things their manage does. The good include a great breakfast buffet that any American hotel executive could learn from, the gym and spa are very nice and the staff does try to please you. The bad includes a very small shower area even by European standards, the Garden restaurant is always booked and very expensive. Then if you order room service you can have some $15 french fries and other vastly over priced food. Spain is very expensive in general and it is not just the exchange rate. Like most of Europe everything is more expensive since the conversion to the Euro. I do not understand why this is yet it it true for Holland, France, Spain etc. A rental car in the USA that might cost $60 per day is $310 per day in Barcelona, you do not really want to drive yourself in the city anyway, the traffic and drivers are kind of crazy. Even dry cleaning your laundry is about 400% more expensive than in the USA. Plus the level of service is crap. I had to good twice to pick up my clothes because when they were supposed to be ready I was told tomorrow, which is typical of Spanish culture. Then they did not give me all my clothes and the next day I had to have the hotel call them 3 times and after a few hours my clothes did finally appear. This is why you need to alter your American ideas of service and quality when you are in Spain.

Some of the funny things I noticed:

Just a short walk down the street heading north towards the beach you will see one of the most beautiful buildings that looks like a castle. It is a military building and then across the street is a University with a run down dumpy building that is their College of Architecture. This makes Americans smile, because it is the complete opposite in America.

Key West Florida Vacation & Holiday - Boycott

By: Tom Forrest

Why You Should Boycott Key West Florida for Vacations & Holidays.

I flew into Fort Lauderdale Florida and drove down to Key West Florida with my family for my Mother's birthday party. I wish someone would have warned my about the evil scams the Monroe County Sheriffs implement on innocent tourists. Most of the drive is one lane and it becomes clogged up during the high season in January and February, except over a few spots where there are two lanes going each way. I never speed and have never had a speeding ticket in my entire life, I was following a black Dodge Charger in the right lane and it seemed odd when this Dodge Charger pulled over into the left lane illegally not using his turn signal, indicating that he wanted me to go ahead of him, and it appeared he was waving to me to go ahead of him as we were just about to merge into one lane again. Since I am a courteous driver I accelerated slightly and then Sheriff Bubba the evil scammer pulled me over, he was driving an unmarked black Dodge Charger and had heinously lured me into his evil unethical trap. I told Sheriff Bubba that I was not even speeding and he lied and said I was going 72 miles per hour and gave me a ticket. I told him I knew he was preying on innocent tourists and doing an evil scam. He could not even look me in the eyes and turned his head away because we both knew exactly the devious tricks he pulled on me. Then when he handed me the ticket he told me he did not know what the amount of the ticket was, and this was just another lie, because he stays in the exact same spot all day long pulling the same evil scam on tourists all day long. We phoned my brother to warn him and my brother told me when he went by the same spot on the road Sheriff Bubba was giving a ticket to another innocent tourist. So if this has also happened to you please email me at tom.forrest@htpcompany.com and I will publish your story for free and promote it all over the Internet on Google, Twitter and Facebook. This is a worthy endeavor to help stop terrible Monroe County Sheriff scams like this on innocent people. This is the USA and I do not want tourists from Europe and other parts of the world thinking Americans will tolerate this sort of heinous crap. Sheriffs should be here to serve and protect people, not use dirty tricks to rip off innocent tourists. I am going to phone the Florida Governor's office and ask them to do something to stop these dirty tricks and evil scams by the Monroe County Florida Sheriff's Department. These bad Sheriffs should be put in jail where they belong. I want to be clear, this is not the Key West city police, and they are very professional and courteous and try to help tourists. In fact many people that live in Key West Florida are very upset about the terrible scams the Monroe County Sheriffs do and also want the Governor of Florida to put a stop to this as it does serious harm to tourism.

Why does the Governor of Florida allow these dirty tricks by the Monroe County Florida Sheriff's Department?

It hurts tourism and now I am on a multi-year, multi-million dollar project to expose and help stop these evil scams from ever happening again. I am one of the top experts in the world on Internet advertising, Internet marketing and search engine optimization on the Internet and my "good old boy network" has six billion people all over the world that will now read my articles and press releases about this. It is going to cost the state of Florida many millions of dollars of lost tourism after I am done with them. So Sheriff Bubba ripped me off for $256 and the state of Florida will end up losing more than $4,000,000+ in lost tourism revenue. Good job Bubba, if I was the Governor of Florida I would fire these corrupt Sheriffs and sell Sheriff Bubba's black Dodge Charger. These idiot Sheriffs think they are so clever with their scams, when in fact they are seriously harming the state of Florida.

Below is a picture of the type of car Bubba the Sheriff was driving, so beware and watch out for him if you decide to drive to Key West Florida.